Winning the Battle Within: Believing You Deserve, and Obtaining the Best
Every great achievement begins with a battle—one that takes place in your own mind at first. It’s a war between doubt and confidence, fear and faith, past failures and future possibilities. The hardest battle you will ever face is the one with your own mind. Because deep down, a voice whispers that you’re not good enough, that success is for others, that you don’t deserve the best. But that voice is a liar, and it’s time to silence it. Allow me to help you accomplish this..
The Power of a Mentor
Few people who are successful have become what they are without the help of others, whether its family, friends, colleagues, managers or accomplished strangers. Being the human beings we are, not far from our primate cousins (apes), we learn through the prospective nature of “monkey see monkey do”. This is where our subconscious conditioning can ultimately benefits or destroys us. Our upbringing, conditioning, memories, often play a part in who we “think” we should be, and what we deserve.
One of the best ways to silence doubt, and negative outlooks on life, is by learning from those who have already conquered their own, on their own. A mentor is not just a teacher; they are proof that growth is possible. They have faced their own struggles, failures, and doubts, and they’ve come out stronger. (often similar to ours, hence why we seem to attach ourselves to them) By following in their footsteps, you learn to deeply understand and benefit, and ‘shortcut’ your journey and gain wisdom that would have taken years to learn on your own.
Finding a mentor isn’t about always luck, sometimes it is though. Whether you are seeking one out or happen to come across one, in personal life or at work, you need to realise that, you have to inspire that person to recognise you. That’s the first step, any Mentor will struggle to take you under their wing if they don’t see the potential you have to offer. This applies even if you are seeking one out, Look for people who have achieved what you aspire to. Read their books, listen to their interviews, reach out to them, or study their path.
If you are fortunate enough to find a mentor who you know personally, and are able to prove yourself worthy of their time – consider yourself fortunate and make the most of this opportunity. Stay humble, show appreciation, but continue to work you ass off and show your skills for this person to continuously show your worth. They will respect you even more for it. They will likely demand more and more, but this is the part where you will start dwelling in the depths of despair once again, and will need to remind yourself why you accepted this challenge again.
A mentor doesn’t have to be someone you meet in person; (Although this does help significantly) sometimes, the right words from the right person can shift your entire perspective, and help target your projection in life. If you believe in this person enough, maybe, just maybe their guidance and interpretation on life can pull you through, and guide you though the depths of despair, into a life you have only but dreamed of.
Fighting the Inner Doubt
Self-doubt is one of the biggest barriers to success. It convinces you to settle for less, to shrink your dreams, and to sabotage your own progress. We are often confronted with opportunities that we do not take hold of, because our inner thoughts and beliefs tell us we don’t deserve the success that could arise from ceasing thee moments. But here’s the truth: You are worthy of success. You deserve happiness, fulfilment, and every good thing life has to offer. The challenge is convincing yourself of that, and programming your subconscious to believe the same.
How do you fight back? You challenge every limiting belief, and every negative thought. When your mind says, “You’re not smart enough,” you respond, “I am able learn.” When it says, “You’ll never make it,” you say, “Every step I take brings me closer, and I’ve witnessed people overcome worse before me..” When it tells you to quit, Wake up, Show up, take the first step and you push forward anyway. Winning this battle is not about never having doubts—it’s about not letting them control you.
You Deserve the Best—But You Must Fight for It
Believing you deserve the best isn’t about entitlement—it’s about understanding your potential. It’s about recognizing that the only thing standing between you and the life you want is the story you tell yourself. (Realise your thoughts are only a circumstance of your conditioning) If you tell yourself you’re not enough, you won’t be. But if you tell yourself you are capable, worthy, and destined for greatness—you will, and can be.
The battle for self-belief is ongoing, but every time you choose to fight, you win. Every time you show up, push forward, and refuse to give in to doubt, you prove to yourself that you are stronger than you think.
Your future is waiting. Your dreams are possible. You deserve the best—now go fight for it.